3 Quick Ways to Boost Your EQ at Work


The only way to change someone's mind is to connect with them from the heart. -Rasheed Ogunlaru

Output: Increase emotional intelligence for better working relationships

Input: Take a few moments each day to become aware of your own emotions and then go deeper with colleagues

Emotional Intelligence is the capability of individuals to recognize their own emotions and those of others. People with high EQ have greater mental health, job performance, and leadership skills, and it’s something that, whether you’re aware of it or not, you’re always assessing.

What people don’t think about is how they can boost and fine tune their EQ. Just like your IQ, there is a level of EQ that is inherent and baseline, however, by practicing and being intentional with your interactions, you can increase your emotional intelligence to drive leadership performance and enhance your relationships.

As work become more automated and technical, the reliance on individual people and teams to get the work out the door has decreased. Of course, the need for human touch hasn’t disappeared, but think about it: a marketer can run a multi-million dollar campaign without ever talking to another person, an engineer could be working with a team in real-time all across the world through Slack, and you can have three meals delivered directly to your couch for a week without ever having to say a word to anyone. Simply said, our opportunities to interact with each other are dwindling and therefore, we don’t have as many opportunities to practice our EQ skills as we used to.

Here are 3 quick ways to make sure you’re exercising your EQ muscle a few times a day:

  1. Stop Slacking people who sit 2 desks away - For small casual requests or questions, take the time to walk over and ask face to face. More than likely you’ll get a faster and better response and you’ll be able to read the reaction of your counterpart instead of it being disguised in text.
  2. Observe and name your own emotions - We have a tendency to push off our emotions and hide them away in the workplace. When a feeling washes over - frustration, excitement, disappointment - take a few beats in your head to observe the feeling and give it a name. Being intentional about this will help it become second nature down the line.
  3. Ask a follow up question - Ask your coworkers “why”. “Why are you frustrated with your project” or “why are you excited for the weekend”, collecting data on how and what makes people feel a certain way is keep for flexing that EQ muscle. It will also strengthen your relationships with your coworkers.